First of all, the fact that I didn't like to call and only prefer texting my friends. I thought that it was weird that I hated the idea of friends calling up each other and chit chatting on random things all night like how they do in movies. And I never seem to like it that much when people do it to me. I mean I'm okay with it if it's like once in a long while and when we have like tons to catch up on but definitely not like once a week or even once a month can be too often for me. It turns out, INTJs don't like calls. Funny enough I'm glad texting and voice notes are a thing now.

Which brings me to my second point, INTJs hate small talks. I didn't know whether it's an intellectual thing or rather a maturity thing but I never thought this as a personality thing. I don't exactly enjoy questions asked by strangers, like anything your relatives usually ask you when you visit them during Hari Raya... As much as I have a lot to talk about, I rather not talk to kill time. It's either all or nothing. So the next time you ask an INTJ something, engage in it and we'll probably talk more if we think you are worth talking to.

Also, regarding talks, INTJs like technical and deep talks. Because we can be so analytical, we like things to be informative and fruitful to us. This is why I enjoy alone time with someone. It's not possible to have deep talks in groups unless it's for school. The more time I have with someone, the faster I become close to them. Definitely speaking this from my personal experience.

To top it off, INTJs hate when people are not listening and make them repeat themselves. Somehow we don't have much time and effort to spare for others so when we are faced with situations where our time and efforts are going to waste, we kinda just avoid it all together. There were moments where people just weren't listening to me but paying attention to other things and I remember how much my blood boils when they asked me to repeat. Sometimes I wished I didn't even mention it in the first place.

The next one is INTJs don't explain well, especially when it comes to how we do our work. I've had this struggle since school and didn't know it was part of my personality that I simply suck so much at it. I process details very complicatedly but when I say it out loud, it's just wasn't what I had in mind. I'm super grateful for my friends who can understand me without me having to explain myself in detail and sorry to those I couldn't help that much with. Honestly, I wish I can lay out what's in my brain too. It's also why I can't seem to be able to teach people in literally anything I happen to be good at.

Ok. Last one, commitments. INTJs kinda hate that. This doesn't necessarily mean relationship-wise. I'm talking about things that require extra care and maintenance in its lifespan... well relationship included. The most high maintenance thing I have in my possession is probably my laptop and phone, and don't ever expect to see me do any hardware maintenance to it. Another high maintenance thing I wish to never own - car. It's nice to have and drive in for convenience and such but for someone who over-analyses things, I don't want to even bother about the maintenance aspect of it. Basically anything electronic are gonna be the death of me. Funny coming from an IT student. Now, you see why I dislike networking so much. Also it's why I don't think pets and plants are gonna be my thing. Nice to have, but too much commitment for me.

It's nice to hear other INTJs talk about their likes and dislikes. I think talking about personality is cool and that it really helps you to know more about yourself and improve different aspects of your life. You create understandings with people in a deeper level too.

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If you're curious, the points mentioned in this blog post were referred from these YouTube videos. I was only speaking on my behalf of it.

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